July 30, 2009

“When we seek to discover the best in others, we somehow bring out the best in ourselves.” –William Arthur Ward

In the wake of so many celebrities passing, I’ve felt a myriad of emotions – sadness, admiration, respect, love, hope, and inspiration. Regardless of how you felt about their personal and professional lives, their influence is undeniable.

What will people say about you when you pass?

Will your relationships reflect the rich, satisfying life of laughter, service, and excellence?

Relationships are an essential part of our lives. You may have heard the saying, “No man is an island.” It’s true that none of us operate independently of other people so it’s important that you know how to effectively interact with others and how to develop healthy relationships.

Take a moment to evaluate the 5 most important relationships in your life. Ask yourself these questions:

-Am I making valuable contributions to this relationship?
-Am I growing & flourishing in this relationship?
-Am I receiving needed support?
-Am I sacrificing myself to maintain this relationship?
-Am I free to be who I am and own my feelings without fear of disapproval?

Notice that the first question is about YOUR contributions. Before we receive, we must give. Before we take, we must serve. As complex as our relationships are, most adult relationships operate on basic accounts of give and take. When imbalance occurs, debilitating emotions like resentment, anger, and sadness can poison an otherwise healthy bond. Consider whether you are missing opportunities to serve people in your life and to deepen the intimacy in your relationships.

Another lesson we can take from the recent tragedies is that we are not promised tomorrow. Life is fragile, and we are only given the present to live and play full out. Live the life of your dreams, love the people in your life, and be your best self.

Feminine Success Journaling Prompt: Write about the quality of your five closest relationships. Discuss the people, context, and evolution of those relationships. Writing about these things is likely to bring up thoughts and emotions you’ve never had about that person. Allow it all to flow. List 2 ways you can improve each relationship.

Feminine Success Action: Do something special for each of the 5 people you’re closest to. It doesn’t have to be expensive or exorbitant; think about the things that are important to them, then find a way to be of service and to enrich your connection with them.
 

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Lisa Nicole Bell